Thursday, December 30, 2004
I do know that we, humans, have a habit of believing things if they are repeated enough. Is that what the HIV=AIDS theory is? Repetition or solid science? I just don't know but I do know that doctors and scientists don't like to be challenged by anything. Anything that goes against conventional wisdom is bad, so any scientist brave/crazy enough to say that a theory is wrong will be ostracized and shouted down until they have undisputable proof. Unfortunately, HIV has not been proven to cause AIDS but it has been accepted by scientists as good enough.
Is it right? I don't know. I know scientific theories have been proven wrong in the past, despite the kicking and screaming of the majority before, so who knows what the future holds for HIV=AIDS.
This is what she said that made me think:
3,000 people died on September 11, 2001, as the result of an evil act of man. The death toll in Asia has reached 60,000 last time I checked, as the result of natural ecological phenomenon. Who do we go after when it is the earth itself that strikes out at us? It kind of makes you think about how pointless it is to start wars of vengeance. Death happens. What sense does it make to keep the cycle of killing going when nature will inevitably do the job for you in time? All you need is patience. We're all heading to the same place.
My opinion is that natural disasters will occur and we can't control them. They are devastating and we must accept them. The only thing we can do is try harder to build stronger buildings, create better warning systems and help those that are struck.
Death happens. I cannot disagree with that. Anything that lives will ultimately die, that is the life cycle and we accept that. On the other hand, it is not pointless to try and stop murderers, criminals, and terrorists. The difference between natural disasters and terrorism is that one is a natural occurance and the other is man-made murder and tyranny.
Humans need law and order. If it is pointless to stop terrorists because we are all going to die anyway, then it is pointless to try and stop starvation, disease, murder, rape, abuse, crime in general, environmental destruction, global warming, tyranny, slavery, and any other evil in the world that is man-made.
Man-made disasters and crime CAN be prevented and CAN be stopped. When they can't, we seek to bring justice not vengence. Justice.
If we didn't try to keep the world JUST then what kind of world would we be living in. Certainly worse than what is happening in Asia now.
Yes, we will all die eventually. Some deaths will be horrible acts of nature, some will be from disease, some from crime. Some will be unavoidable, other will not. Should we turn a blind eye to those that could have been stopped just because others could not?
If helping makes you feel good - now is definitely the time. No amount is too small unless it's ZERO. Please give.
Wednesday, December 29, 2004
Preparing for an evening of romance, my friend's husband took a shower and did his usual grooming. Apparantly, he likes to use Gold Bond Medicated powder on his private area during the summer months. He basically did his normal groom including dousing his area in the powder and proceeded to love his wife. It didn't occur to him that the powder may irritate the gentleness that is a woman, if you know what I mean...
So, while the poor girl is screaming from the stinging the man, oblivious to the reason for the excessive bucking and howling, kept on goin' thinking he was the stud of the century.
So, here is a tip for you men that like to keep your private parts fresh. Don't freshen them BEFORE sex. We like you clean but not minty fresh.
And no, this did not happen to me. I swear. It truly did happen to a girlfriend of mine.
Forks are a magical invention used to prevent excessively dirty clothing, food fingerprints on MY KEYBOARD (hint, hint) and carpet stains. Men, please, if you love your wives embrace the beauty that is the fork.
Tuesday, December 28, 2004
The O.B. sent me for testing because of a DVT concern. Deep Vein Thrombosis is a life-threatening blood clot and not something that the docs take lightly.
All is well. After a lot of testing, it was determined that I have a benign cyst behind my knee pressing a vein when I bend my leg causing a slow in blood flow and swelling. It is not a pregnancy problem and it is not life-threatening. Yay!
On the plus side, I got to see Draco. He is breech and he is ass up. His head is directly under my right breast and he is facing my spine. I've made jokes that when he kicks me it feels like he's kicking my ass... Turns out, I was right. :-)
Jake went with me to the hospital, for moral support,because Dean needed to sleep. Jake was a real champ. He was so well behaved the nurses couldn't believe that he is only 7. Unfortunately, Dean didn't get much sleep because my family kept calling for news and since I was unable to get to a phone, Dean had no news and no sleep.
How was your day?
Sunday, December 26, 2004
Hope everyone had a great holiday.
Friday, December 24, 2004
So Joseph also went up from the town of Nazareth in Galilee to Judea, to Bethlehem the town of David, because he belonged to the house and line of David. He went there to register with Mary, who was pledged to be married to him and was expecting a child. While they were there, the time came for the baby to be born, and she gave birth to her firstborn, a son. And she brought forth her first born son, and wrapped him in swaddling clothes, and laid him in a manger; because there was no room for them in the inn.
And there were in the same country shepherds abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night. And lo, the angel of the Lord came upon them, and the glory of the Lord shone around about them; and they were sore afraid. And the angel said unto them,
"Fear not: for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people. For unto to you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, which is Christ the Lord. And this shall be a sign unto you; ye shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes, lying in a manger."
And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God and saying:
"Glory to God in the highest,
And on earth peace, goodwill toward men!"
Hat Tip: Goes to Big Dan (who has a great blog and the big C).
Merry Christmas Big Dan, you are forever in my prayers.
"The Bush administration is ending the year as they began it, choosing confrontation over compromise, ideology over moderation, and defiance over cooperation," said Sen. Pat Leahy, D-Vt., ranking Democrat on the Senate Judiciary Committee. "On some of their controversial nominees, they may prevail because of their monopoly of power. The big loser, however, will be the independence of our judicial branch of government."
Yeah, whatever. The Republicans are still 5 votes shy of stopping a filibuster. I don't like these lazy-assed filibusters of late. If the Dems threaten a filibuster, then make them do it. Really do it, ya pansies. I don't want to hear about how someone is too old, or frail to properly filibuster. If you are too old and frail, then RETIRE. If you can't do your job right, get out!
I want to see the Republicans make the Democrats really earn their frickin' filibuster. Get tough. If you let them get aways with empty threats, they win. Don't negotiate with terrorists, damn you!
Thursday, December 23, 2004
If you are interested, you can read about the Polish tradition of Wigilia.
More bloggy goodness later, then. To my Polish friends:
Wesolych Swiat! Bozego Narodzenia!
I do feel bad for my darling husband, though. You see, I am usually the one who goes out and shovels. Dean hates doing it, I don't and it's good exercise. Well, for obvious reasons, I can't do it this time. Poor Dean, he's gonna have to drive home through the worst of it and then he'll have to shovel it.
I plan to take a picture of it in the morning. I hope it's good packing snow. Jake has just been itching to make a snowman.
Tuesday, December 21, 2004
It is the same with me. Dean has women friends. I like them. I don't worry that those friendships will hinder my marriage because I trust Dean and I know that our committment to each other is solid. No matter what problems we have and all married couples have some, we are committed to each other, our marriage and our family. I have no doubt about this and neither does Dean.
When I hear about a friend that is jealous over his wife or her husband, I worry. I worry that their relationship is in peril and it makes me sad. That got me to thinking about how women and men get jealous. Is there a difference between women and men when it comes to jealousy?
Is jealousy just about trust in a relationship or is it insecurity too? Are they one in the same?
On to the sexes.
Being a woman I can only speak from a female point of view. I will need answers from men regarding that perspective. Hopefully, some brave man/men will give us insight.
When it comes to some women, jealousy is more than envy. Jealousy is about insecurity more than anything else. I am not jealous of other women by nature. I never have been. I have been insecure but I have never projected that as jealousy. I overcompensated for my insecurities by being funny and having a sardonic wit. Other women, when insecure, work really hard to put other women down. Others just get positively green.
I have been accused of being jealous by another woman. That pissed me off more than anything. Especially, since the accuser is just about the last person on the planet I would ever envy for any reason. I got really angry by the suggestion. Just as I would get if someone accused me of lying or stealing. Besides, it's one thing if Pamela Anderson said I was jealous of her, that I could almost understand. I mean heck, she's at least hot.
What would drive a person to falsely accuse someone else of jealousy? By telling
Is it reverse jealousy or just the plain old regular type?
Jealousy is a funny thing. I've had people tell me that they were jealous my hair or my complexion. To which I would reply, having grown up fat it would have been cruel to give me bad hair and skin on top of it. I don't say that to blow off the compliment either, my two best features are my hair and skin, I say it because I believe it's true. No matter what our insecurities are we all have something that we like about ourselves. I wish more people would focus on those things, rather than on the ones they are lacking. Wouldn't life be much more fun?
What are your thoughts on jealousy? Besides being less catty, are men really that different than women when it comes to jealousy?
So which is it?
Is he great or is he crappy? Do we have great/crappy past Secretaries to compare him too?
This isn't just a partisan thing either, we have Republican leaders calling for his head. I'll post my thoughts later, what do YOU think?
Monday, December 20, 2004
Today, we are cleaning, doing hundreds of loads of laundry and preparing our nursery. Got a lot to do, have to build the crib, put all the baby stuff away and I want to do it now - just in case. I have 4 weeks to go but you never know. Draco may not want to wait 4 weeks, ya know?
I promise to be a better blogger than I have been. It's getting harder to blog than I thought. I get tired faster than before and my brain just has baby on it.
Friday, December 17, 2004
Dean thinks this will backfire because using the courts this way is bad. I disagree. My question to Dean would be when the hell do you use the court then? I understand the opposition to using the courts to get Same-sex Marriage. That is different than what is happening here. SSM never existed in this country before, it is new and different. The majority of the country still opposes it and it will take time to bring them around.
The difference, as I see it, is that Gays and Lesbians were serving in the military since the military began. They are being expelled for openly stating that they are gay. They aren't allowed to display their partner's picture on their desk for fear of losing their career. That is blantant discrimination. They are losing their jobs simply because of who they are. Whether you believe homosexuality is a choice or not is irrelevant. I will note that those that think it is a choice, aren't usually gay. Most people know in their gut that sexual attraction is innate and impossible to change. To prove the point, how many heterosexuals could choose to perform a gay sex act? You simply cannot choose who you are attracted to.
Back to my point. Whether it is a choice or not is irrelevant. It is discrimination to fire someone because of their sexuality. Just as it would be to fire people that had blue eyes or liked broccoli.
To use the courts to end a policy of open discrimination is different than using the courts to create something that never existed as a right before.
Gays have been in the military since the beginning and taking away from them something they have always had because they are gay is WRONG. If you can't use the court for this, then we should just close the courthouse doors.
Thursday, December 16, 2004
I was given a choice of what day to have him. I was told that it should be 7 to 10 days earlier than my due date. My due date was Jan 28th. Since I couldn't have him on my sister's b-day because it is after my due date, I chose the next best thing. Our son will be born on the birthday of my closest pal and sister-in-law, Mare. Also, my favorite doc on the team will be performing the surgery. Woo Hoo!
So, when is the BIG DAY???
I'm scheduled for noon, unless my lovely son decides to push things sooner. Let's hope not, I'm looking forward to giving birth without labor this time!!! That way I'll be fresh as a daisy and pretty when it's all over. :-)
Oh and I gained 1 pound, for a grand total of 11 lbs so far. Since they are estimating that the little guy is already 6lbs - I may actually lose weight when this thing is over. Wouldn't that be sweet?
Big Huge Thank You!!!
Caltechgirl sent us a pair of baby bootie that she knitted for Draco. They are beautiful. Thanks so much, we love them.
See ya later dudes!
Tuesday, December 14, 2004
Monday, December 13, 2004
Holy Moses, I caught sight of my ass after I showered and it looks like I'm packing a second child in the rear. What is up with that? It's not wider, it just sticks out farther.
To make myself feel better, since the baggage is temporary, I played my favorite parody video. I love this video. It makes me smile everytime I see it.
So, enjoy this video as an ode to my big ass!
Did you know that many things associated with Christmas date back long before Christ?
The Mesopotamians celebrated the New Year for the 12 days prior to the actual new year. In Scandinavia during the winter months the sun would disappear for many days. When first light appeared, a great festival would be held, called the Yuletide, and a special feast would be served around a fire burning with the Yule log. Great bonfires would also be lit to celebrate the return of the sun. The Romans and Greeks had festivals during which they would exchange gifts of good luck. As christianity spread, the church forbid these pagan celebrations. That didn't work. So, it was decided to tame the pagan rituals by celebrating the birth of Christ at this time.
So, Christmas was named in honor of Christ's birth. It was a way to keep the winter celebration and honor the Son of God. The exact day of the Christ child's birth has never been pinpointed. Traditions say that it has been celebrated since the year 98 AD. In 137 AD the Bishop of Rome ordered the birthday of the Christ Child celebrated as a solemn feast. In 350 AD another Bishop of Rome choose December 25th as the observance of Christmas.
You can say Happy Holidays or whatever you fucking please. I celebrate Christmas. I have since I was born and I will till the day I die. Christmas is about Christ, hence the name Christmas.
So, fuck Happy Holidays, I will be saying Merry Christmas because that's what it is.
Sunday, December 12, 2004
My blogging has been light because I'm prepping for Christmas, childbirth and other stuff. I'm a busy little bee, ya know...
So, what the fuck was Bernie Kerik thinking when he said yes to the Homeland Security job, eh? Did he forget about Zoe Baird and Linda Chavez? Hello?
Homeland Security = Immigration issues
You can't have illegal immigrant past employees, M'kay?
It's too bad though, I was really digging the idea of Kerik as a Cabinet member.
Be back later - must go to the grocery store now!
Friday, December 10, 2004
I'm not sure if I've ever mentioned this before but I am a potato chip fanatic. I'm hopelessly addicted to chips. I've never met a chip that I didn't like. Salty, greasy and crunchy, for me that is snack food heaven!!
Rhianna sent me England's equivalent. Crisps! I've never tasted anything better in my life than the Turkey, Stuffing and Parsnip flavored crisps that she sent. OMG! Ever bite was like Thanksgiving dinner. Jake and I fought over the bag. We'd eat a few bites and our eyes would glaze over in ectasy. It was like a weird food orgasm.
She sent many wonderful goodies and Jake is especially thankful for the giant bag of candy. Jake loves fruit flavored candy above all things and he can't stop talking about the wonderful lady that sent him the candy and how good the candy is.
Rhianna you ROCK!
Thursday, December 9, 2004
Help me out. A few things are bugging me but I want your input. I think the font is too big and I'm pretty sure that I prefer the comments to pop up.
What do you think?
Wednesday, December 8, 2004
Many of the state's largest employers are dropping health benefits for unmarried gay couples, seven months after Massachusetts became the only state to legalize same-sex marriage.
Massachusetts companies, some of which pioneered so-called domestic-partner benefits for unmarried, same-sex partners, said they are now withdrawing them for reasons of fairness: If gays and lesbians can now marry, they should no longer receive special treatment in the form of health benefits that were not made available to unmarried, opposite-sex couples.
That sounds fair. You can now get legally married, so those of you that choose to not marry are in the same boat as heterosexual couples that choose to not marry. GLAD doesn't think so.
Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders, or GLAD, a New England advocacy organization, argues that taking them away is an unfair hardship, because the decision to marry is still more difficult for gay and lesbian couples. Unlike opposite-sex married couples, gay married couples will have to pay taxes on their benefits to the Internal Revenue Service, because federal law defines marriage as a partnership solely between a man and a woman. Gay marriage can also jeopardize enlistees' military status, and gay couples who marry may be barred from international adoptions. Some said they simply aren't ready to marry just because a longstanding barrier to marriage was suddenly lifted.
What exactly does any of that have to do with receiving benefits from your company? The decision to marry is difficult for any rational couple. Most thinking adults don't do it lightly. Gay couples have to pay taxes on their benefits? Don't they anyway? The only difference is that they won't get the slightly higher deduction for filing jointly from the Fed. Of course, they weren't getting it before either and lots of married couples don't either for a variety of reasons. This argument is pretty weak.
Straight couples aren't entitled to any benefits if they aren't married. Companies provided benefits to Same-sex domestic partners as a way to even things up because they COULDN'T get married. Now that the Court has made SSM legal in Mass, then it is unfair to penalized straight couples that choose to not marry but still provide benefits to gay and lesbian unmarried couples. From the business point of view, this is entirely fair. If you want your spouse's company benefits then get married. That is how the rest of us have to do it.
It's called equality, get used to it.
Update I'm glad I'm not the only one that finds this reasonable.
My belly has really popped out and I won't let anyone near me with a tape measure!
I watched The Biggest Loser last night. I have never seen it before but I found it to be a really interesting reality show. I like the fact that all the participants get something out of it and they do it on their own.
What is it about these reality shows that makes them so popular? Is it because we can see ourselves doing it as opposed to seeing perfect Hollywood actors/actresses pretending to be normal people. I mean can you really relate to Kelly Ripa? Her ankles are like 2 inches around...
What's new with y'all?
Tuesday, December 7, 2004
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Performed by Adam Sandler on 03 Dec 1994
Put on your yamukah
Here comes Hannukah
So much funnukah
To celebrate Hannukah
Hannukah is: the festival of lights
Instead of one day of presents
We have eight crazy nights
When you feel like/the only kid in town
Without a Christmas tree
Here's a list of people that are
Jewish like you and me:
David Lee Roth
lights the menorah
So do Kirk Douglas, James Caan
and the late Dinah Shorah
Guess who eats together at
the Carnegie Deli?
Bowser from Sha-Na-Na
And Arthur Fonzarelli!
Paul Newman's half Jewish
and Goldie Hawn's half, too
Put them together,
What a fine looking Jew!
You don't need to Deck the Halls
Or Jingle Bell Rock,
'Cause you can spin the dreidel
With Captain Kirk and Mr. Spock!
O.J. Simpson [not a Jew]
But guess who is? Hall of Famer Rod Carew [He converted]
We got Ann Landers and her
sister Dear Abby,
Harrison Ford's a quarter Jewish
Not too shabby
Some people think Ebenezer Scrooge is
Well, he's not, but guess who is --
All three Stooges!
So many Jews are in Show Biz
Tom Cruise isn't but I think his agent is
Tell your friend Veronica
It's time to celebrate Hanukkah
I hope I get a harmonica
On this lovely lovely Hanukkah
So drink your gin and tonica
But don't smoke marijuanica
If you really really wannika
Have a Happy Happy Happy Happy Hanukkah
Happy Hannukah Everybody!
Merry Christmas and Happy Hannukah!
Monday, December 6, 2004
On Sunday, I was summoned to my Mom's to go out to lunch. I would've slept and blown it off but she had my son and I had to pick him up. :-)
Turns out that lunch was a ruse. I walked into a surprise Baby Shower. That was fun and I got more stuff that I really needed. Between my online friends and my offline friends and family - this baby is almost set!
I still have to finish up my Christmas shopping and decorate my front porch with lights. I'll do that this week.
Saturday, December 4, 2004
We know we did the right thing for Buttons. Allowing him to linger in pain would've been selfish and cruel. He deserved better. He deserved having a family that loved him enough to do right by him. It doesn't make it any easier. Love is never easy, nothing worthwhile ever is.