Allow me to preface this post by saying that I like men. In fact, I'll go so far as to say I love a very select few. I'm raising two boys to hopefully be great men someday. This is not a bashing of men.
However, I just read this piece by Glenn Sacks talking about how the media minimizes the contribution of men to their families. While I agree with much of what Mr. Sacks is saying I took great umbrage and yes I do mean GREAT UMBRAGE with a small section. In fact, this section:
This is a terribly unfair distortion because it disregards the fact that men are usually their families’ primary breadwinners, and often make great sacrifices in that role. Studies which account for the total amount of work that husbands and wives contribute to their households–including housework, child care, and employment–confirm that men contribute at least as much to their families as women do.
I have a problem with that. Shocked? Probably not. I have no doubt that many men and I'll even say an overwhelming majority of men probably do contribute, at least, as much to their families as women do. BUT the way that paragraph is written implies or generally states that all men do. Allow me to say this...THAT IS COMPLETE AND UTTER BULLSHIT!
Here are some people I know. We have a woman that is the Primary breadwinner and easily does more than her share of childcare and chores. Not to say that her spouse doesn't contribute. He definitely does but it is not equal and HE does way more household chores and childcare than any other husband/father I've ever personally witnessed.
Then we have the stay at home mom and breadwinner dad. Dad does help with some cooking, some chores and does the "man stuff" but since he's the worker and she the home person; it shouldn't be and isn't equal on the homefront.
Third we have another mom/dad team, who, probably earn even money. They split the chores and childcare. Even Steven.
Last but certainly not least, we had stay at home mom and worker dad. Mom did EVERYTHING on the homefront except sometimes worker dad took out the trash. Plus, many periods existed where homemom had to also work full-time. This did not alleviate her homechores it only lightened a little bit of "childcare". "Childcare" was picked up by out-of-workdad. Out-of-workdad didn't do chores, nope, Overworked-Mom just had to do the chores upon returning home and fix any fuck ups that occurred in her absence. A part-time job could have been made from that alone.
That is my experience. So, you can say that I find the generalizations about men to be crap. Lots of men do lots of great things. Some go above and beyond. But some are lazy pieces of shit and they should not be allowed to sit under the blanket Mr. Sacks so generously weaved for them.